Show Your Courage

Our secret project is finally here! Some of you may already know since our website went live last week, but for those of you who don’t we’ve created a business called Show Your Courage. After the recent political controversy with Kavanaugh and the testimony of Dr. Christine Blasey Ford, Becky was moved to do something. Sitting in our house talking the issue of sexual abuse with our friends and family was not enough!

Becky was thinking about how and what she wanted to do to help raise awareness to the all too common issue of sexual assault. Her final idea was a scarf. The resultant scarves and pocket squares were designed to be: a tool for activism and representation; an extra boost of courage when a challenging day lies ahead; and a way to signify a safe space where survivors can find a listening ear and caring heart. We reached out to Shleigh Pasini, a local textile designer/friend, about our idea. We thought she would be able to connect us to the right people to execute the design. Shleigh was more than helpful, she took over the entire manufacturing process and was able to give us a prototype in just two short weeks.

The original scarf design spells out “I believe her” with multiple “& her” scattered around in red ink. Although the design hasn’t changed we added a black version to the collection and the scarves come in both silk and linen fabrics. We also added a men’s pocket square to the collection as we feel men are a critical and necessary part of the conversation. The response from the public has been a great one. We’ve met some incredible people in a short amount of time and we look forward to learning and growing as this project moved forward. Another very important aspect of this project is that we’re dedicated to donating a portion of the proceeds to multiple charities and organizations that help survivors get education, support and bring about justice to their case.

Every 98 seconds someone in America is sexually abused; 1 out of 3 women and 1 out of 6 men. These statistics are appalling and we as a country need to bring awareness and make a change. Many victims do not report their sexual assault for any number of reasons; embarrassment, not being believed, lost memory, uneducated about facts, felt as if it was their fault…etc. The treatment and life altering implications that Dr. Ford and her family have experienced is a prime example of why many victims are hesitant to come forward.

All the team members behind Show Your Courage have close relationships with survivors of sexual trauma. One event was just shared recently with some of them. This survivor was sexually assaulted by her husband after a night out. That evening she remembers going in and out of consciousness, but doesn’t have a complete memory after leaving the bar. The following morning, she knew something was wrong due to the little memory she could recall. She was scared because she didn’t have specific details, so she remained quiet for eight months. She was afraid to speak up because she knew it would be her word against his. She also feared judgment by her peers because she had been drinking that night. To add more confusion, her assailant was her husband and she was having trouble understanding that. She felt she had no options and nowhere to turn. With the help of therapy and the love and support of her family, she has been able to find some peace.

We are very excited to see this project come to fruition. With the support of our friends and family we have been able to create a product that will not only help survivors but will hopefully create a community that is more aware of this epidemic. If you want to show your support head over to Show Your Courage and purchase a scarf!